“When my twins were two or three weeks old, my partner had to suddenly go back to Scotland because his Dad died. It was a challenging time- having twins and having a four year old, and all the logistics that go with that. I was struggling with post-natal anxiety.
"I was just going through the motions. I wasn’t able to enjoy the twins. It sounds awful, but at the beginning that was how I was feeling.
"So I was referred by my GP to a Psychologist at Links to Wellbeing. Because the Psychologist was a specialist in post-natal and perinatal psychology, the discussions we had were relevant to my circumstances. It was fabulous.
"Having those conversations made it much easier to cope. It made it easier to understand that it’s just a feeling, and that it’s not the worst thing and that you’re not the only one in the world."
"It feels controllable now. It feels like I’ve got systems in place so that I can take control and feel more comfortable dealing with feelings of anxiousness. I can accept that it’s still part of me but it’s also not the worst thing in the world. I can enjoy the kids. I’m properly in love with them. It’s in a good place. It’s a place that’s fun.
"To other people I’d say, don’t feel embarrassed. It’s actually very common. You’re not a terrible person and it’s nothing to feel ashamed of. It’s about getting better and about getting to a place where you can enjoy your children.
"You might be surprised about how many people do completely understand. I’ve been trying to be open with friends, letting them know about how I’ve been feeling. The number of people who’ve messaged me and said “I hear you”, “I was dealing with that too” was a surprise.
"The more awareness and openness there is, the more people understand. It’s not something I need to be ashamed of. It makes you stronger, it’s part of the growth of a person sometimes.”
Links to Wellbeing Perinatal Program provides supportive and non-judgemental services for parents with concerns which may be interfering with daily activities.
PANDA - Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia.